Black and White !!

PS: If you are unmarried, you might not be interested in the post. 
So (if you want) you can directly move to the outfit.

Today i read the give status post on FB.

If u are single, they ask about BoyFriend/fiancé. 

When u have a fiancé, they ask for wedding. 

When u get married,they ask for children. 

Once u have one,they ask for another. 

if u get divorced,they ask why. 

If you try to start ur life again, they ask why so quickly. 

People never like what u do.

 If u are proud of who u are & don't care about what people think, share it, because it's your life and you should live it the way you want to.People Get A Life !!!

Well i did not repost it as i hate spamming on FB and i dont need to prove anything about anything but while reading this message, i realize that i am also going though one of its phase (the third one). Its going to be 3 years(in few months) of my wedding and a few questions that has been asked me again and again by the family/ friends/ relatives/ neighbors are: When you are going to have a kid? Its been years(feel like i got married few centuries ago), why you guys are not planning for the kids? Well its our personal life and our decision when we will have a child. Why the hell do you care about it. If i'll get a child, are you going to feed him/her? Who is going to take care of the child? Its none of your business what and why are planning about our life. We are happy with our current life and do not want to have more responsibilities, why do you poke your nose in my personal matters. We too want to have the child, but why do you care about WHEN? We will have it whenever we want to have one.


Its easy to explain the family, what we think and what we are planning about but when it comes to relatives or neighbors, i really don't understand what should i reply them and why should i explain them. There is always a age difference, so we cannot be so rude also and sometimes it becomes very complex to explain. In fact i feel they have nothing to with our life and these questions are asked just to know what is happening in our life.

Did you also face the same situation? If yes, what you did?

On the other node, this is what i wore on Sunday for shopping with cousin.

Black and white is my all time favorite combo and i wear it whenever i am confused while dressing up. As i told here before, one need to very conscious when dressing up in Hyderabad, I wore the tights with this floral dress.

A closer look .. :)

I so love these booties. They are a perfect combo of heels with comfort. I got them from ASOS some time back but never get a change to wear them coz of the weather conditions (its too Hot here). I really wish we would have some winters in Hyderebad also so that we could also enjoy the Fall items like boots and all.

ON ME::  Floral Dress: Pantaloons

Booties, Tights: ASOS

Bangles, Loops : local boutique

With Love

Swati

Mixed Prints and a Figther

Last Night I read a post at Kiran's blog about Navjot Kashyap. I will not talk anything about Navjot here as even i dont know much about him and visiting his blog fr the first time. But after going through the post i can say that He is a fighter and has a strong will to live the life. Many of us give up when something wrong happen but he is not only fighting but also working even at this stage.

He made me realize that we are so blessed with the most important thing of any life that is Health but do we ever thank God for proving us a good health or for a loving family or a good job? I am not getting spiritual here but most of the times we are just complaining about the things that we don't have in life or what others have and ruin our life in the charm of those things forgetting about everything that we have in our Life.  If we ever try to look into our lives what all we have that others dont have, we will realize that how blessed and lucky we are to have the current life. Life is not to waste for the things that we don't have but its all about being happy and enjoying the things that we have. I am not saying don't be ambitious but  don't just let your ambitions affect your life's happiness. Everything in life have their own place and we should not let one part of our life dominate over the others.

Lets move Forward to the outfit:

 This is what i wore today for the office. Nothing Fancy but a basic shirt with a beautiful floral pants which is my recent purchase. The little flowers are not visible clearly in the pic but they are so cute. I have already posted here that i am not an expert while it come to mixing the prints but i try it whenever i feel to and i am loving the outputs.

 These pictures are taken after the work and i had even removed the (only few) accessories that i was wearing. I am very obsessed with he side tails these days and doing it almost everyday.

On Me: Shirt : F&U

Pants: Forever21

Shoes: Gift from Mom

Belt: With the Jeans

Swati

Being in relationship!!

Few days back,I had been talking with my friend who is planning to get married this year which is supposed to be an arrange one. Arrange marriages are part of Indian Culture, in which parents or the family members find a match for the girl/boy and we still have approx 80% marriages that are arranged. But most difficult part with arrange marriage is to meet the person and decide weather they are gonna make it for the life together or not. Its tough to decide in a few meetings. That's why she was confused, afraid of the changes that will happen in life after the wedding and what if she could not take the right decision. She asked me, How i feel after getting married. Well i obviously feel good and lucky to have D as my Husband. But here i am not going to discuss my relationship but what i feel is there is no rule in a relationship. Every two person are different and so do their  behavior and expectations. So every relationship is different and cannot run by the rules.

However, a lot of trust and a bit of adjustment can make a relation successful. No one in the world is perfect. In-fact there is nothing called a PERFECT MATCH but there are perfect relations and its up to you how we take your relationship. If you are expecting something from your partner, do remember he/she might also have the same. He cannot go for shopping with you everyday or she might need some space for her friends or family. When  both the person in a relation remember this, they are gonna happy forever.

Lets move to the outfit. This i wore on monday for the office. Nothing fancy a printed top with a pair of denims(my all time fav). 

 Its a very old top which has a length with some cuts. While cleaning my wardrobe i got it out and did a DIY to get it ready to wear and I am in love with it. Well who will not, it has beautiful print, its in chiffon and it has detailed work on neck. What else is needed.

Top: DIY, To old to remember

Jeggings: Levis

Flats: Gift from Mom

Belt: Westside (Not visible in the pics)

Excuse for the low quality pics, as they were taken by me  while i was getting ready.

With Love

Swati

Unpredictable Life!

Life leads us to very unpredictable ways. We think and plan in some ways and it surprises us with the new turns. It gives us new surprises, changes or challenges which can be good or bad but what ever it is,We can't change them and we need to face them.That's life.

Lately i have been thinking a lot about me and what i need from the life. Whatever i have in life is enough or am i made for something else? Should i not go to the next level in my life or i am on the right place? I am swinging in between weather to take life as serious as i (sometimes) want it to be and move forward in a direction with some strict steps or let it go the way it is running and enjoy the each moment of the present. I prefer to live in present without thinking much about future but there comes some time when you have to plan something and you cannot avoid it. I am running through the same phase of confusion and will surely reach on a decision that will keep my life in a way i want it to be.

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Lines from  "Time Of Your Life", i love to listen. They say the complete truth about the life.

Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road

Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go

So make the best of this test, and don't ask why

It's not a question, but a lesson learned in time

It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right.

I hope you had the time of your life.

So take the photographs, and still frames in your mind

Hang it on a shelf in good health and good time

Tattoos of memories and dead skin on trial

For what it's worth it was worth all the while

It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right. 

I hope you had the time of your life. 

It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right. 

I hope you had the time of your life. 

It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right. 

I hope you had the time of your life.

Do you also feel the same or is it only me (or some people like me) who thinks like this?

With Love

Swati

Wrong Perceptions : Who cares

Does it happened to you that the people have some wrong perceptions about you and think exactly opposite to your personality? It has happened to me quiet a few times. However someone's thinking really do not affect me but still before one dont know me how can they judge or make perceptions about me.


A couple of years back, one of my close friend told me that in the very first few initial meeting, she thought that i have got a lot of attitude and it's going to tough to be with me. But when we started knowing each other, she found me completely different. I  gel up with people easily but when it comes to approach some one personally for the first time or in initial conversations, i hesitate to take the first step. But once i get in touch with one, i try to maintain our relationship loyally.
The other thing is, if i do not find a frequency match in thinking with someone, i try to maintain a distance between us. So that even if we do not agree on some point, we can share a healthy relationship. If you think this as i am giving you attitude, i don't care. I don't want to waste my time thinking in all these craps. 
Recently i got to know that one of my colleagues was telling someone else the same thing. I have communicated him multiple times and found that we think exactly in two opposite directions which made me to communicate with him on very required  topics. If he so thinks that we can be friend, why don't he talk to me directly. 


Initially, when i leaned that what someone is talking about me on my back, i used to get annoyed as he/she is trying to ruin my name in public but after a few times, i realize, who knows me will not believe the other one and who  don't know me why the hell should i explain this to them.
Now I am a person who really don't care what image people have about me and live the life as i want it to be like a free bird... ;)

Did you face the same thing ever?

With Love 

Swati

m back to bang.. :)

Hey Lovely People,

How are you doing?

Its really been long since i have not blog but i was really very busy with family,health issues, work and more work lately. My parents visited us and i wanted to spend some quality time with them. I was around and have been reading your blogs(actually a few times) but was not able to post something. But now i am back and going(try) to blog regularly.
Just wanna say HI to all by blog friends to whom i have not chatted in last few days but i MISSED YOU guys and hope you missed me too... ;)

With Love 

Swati

Random conversation with Husband #1

Last week, We had a reception party of one of my colleague. Here is a conversation with the husband.


Husband: Which shirt should i wear (Showing two shirts)?
Swati : This one (selecting one)


Husband: ok.. but i could not find the shoes for this in the shoe rack.
Swati: Just check the bedroom wardrobe. There are more shoes. (I dont have a big shoe rack. So shoes that i do not use in daily life, i kept them in boxes of the room wardrobe)


Husband : There are a no of boxes. can you check?(thinking.... I dont want to check all the boxes.)
Swati : Baby, i am wearing the saari. Could you check it by yourself.(wearing saari is really a big task for me and Hubby dear knows that.)


Husband opened the first box, than second, than third and could not find his shoes in the wardrobe.


Husband: You really have loads of shoes.(Having a question mark on his face)


MORAL OF THE STORY: Husbands really don't know what and how much (of anything) is there in your home.
I do most of my shopping with husband and he is the one who  always encourage to buy when i am confused about something. Even than he don't remember all of that but that's good for me and i can shop more, more and more .....  LOL.

With Love

Swati

Its my Birthday.

Yes, this is the day when i came to this world 6783 days before(don't be scared. i have not calculated the days manually) . Birthday is always the best day of the year as you get the text/ call from all the family , friends and relatives to whom you have not ever talked since months. You'll start getting calls since mid night and even they will call you in the early hours of the days(the time you, at-least me, do not even wake in normal days).

We had a mid night birthday celebration that was planned by Husband. He had an office party last night. so he secretly got the cake and hide it somewhere at home and than left for the party. He came late from the party and i thought, he might forgot to get the cake(i have checked the fridge). But he got it from somewhere at exactly 12 and made me feel special again(as he always do). 

Other than the calls and wishes, its a normal day. I am working even today **sub sub** but yeah definitely go for a dinner with hubby. I wish i have my family and friends with me here in Hyderabad and we could party hard till late night. But never mind, will surely gonna enjoy with the hubby dear.

I had read a post on Tanvi's blog  some time back where she wrote somethings about her. As its my B'Day, here goes 26 things about me:

1. I am full of life and believe to live every moment of my life.

2. I have a very supporting and loving family(who has supported me in all my decisions )

3. I have world's Best Husband(i know every women woman thinks the same.)

4. I have grown and brought up in a very small town of India. (Whatever i am today is coz of my family.)

5. I feel myself proud for the decisions i have taken and i don't regret for anything.( Everything turned out good at the end..:))

6. I was a Tom Boy till my +2 and start behaving like girls in my graduation.

7. I love to travel however i do not get a lot of chances to travel as we both are working and stay away from our family.

8. My husband always say that sometime i still behave like child(he is correct. Some time i really could not control myself)

9. I work as a s/w professional for almost 4 years(rvery lately realized that its really been 4 years. )

10. I had a few bad experience with the friends but still i have a few true and loyal friends(who understands me really well)

11. I am very emotional and trust people easily(i know this is really bad but thats part of my nature. I am trying to change it.)

12. I am mad about SHOES.(i'll no tell the counts here but they are too many but i still need more... hehehe)

13. I am a thorough reader(can read almost everything) but not a good writer (but still started blogging)

14. I have a big junk foodie (specially love Indian chat and pani-poori)

15. I believe if someone is doing a favor on you, you have to return it(in any form ) 

16. I can not sit ideal and need anything to do. I love to be occupied.(of course not in the office work all the time. )

17. I love to paint and DIY things.(have not painted since last year but will start it soon)

18. I was good in studies (but now i start feeling sleepy when i read something technical.. LOL)

19. I am a very pampered kind of girl(specially from Husband)

20. My Husband and Brother are the BFF's of my life.

21. I love ice-creams and chocolates(actually ice creams more)

22. I have gain 5 Kgs in last 2 yrs(still have a flat belly. Actually my friends say, i was underweight before)

23. I am very Lazy(do not sleep a lot but m lazy)

25 Love music and movies a lot(we go for a movie for almost every weekend condition is, there should be a good movie on the shows and i love Bollywood masala movies )

26. I surf a lot on Internet(for almost everything)

I had been thinking to put some mid night celebration pics on the post but could not get the time to transfer them(**sad face**). So just enjoy a pic with husband from last vacation.

i'll keep growing with years of my life, live the life as it last day and do my level best to chase my dreams.

I hope you like the post.

With Love 

Swati

Dialogue In the Dark

Have you ever thought of how the blind people live their life?How they use their senses like touch, smell, listen or taste for everything. Is it easy for them? If you want an answer of all these questions and want to experience the darkness than Dialogue In the Dark is the place. They have their exhibitions worldwide and i'll say its really a must go place if you really want to experience it. 
On the weekend , we have been roaming in the In-orbit mall with friends and had nothing to do(were almost done with shopping and food) and found an advertisement for the Dialogue In the Dark and thought of joining Dialogue In the Dark for a adventurous experience. We had no idea about what it is going to be inside and the experience was awesome.In the exhibition, guides lead us through a completely dark environment where one learns to interact by relying on other senses. The guide was very soft spoken and a quick learner(learned the same of complete group in one shot) and we came to know in the end that she is blind. I have been thinking that she must be a person, who had seen all the inner location of the place in the light and would have remembered it and explaining us now but she was just awesome in explaining and making us feel everything.
She made us use our senses to enjoy everything inside. They have different type of areas created for different sense - touch, smell, hear and taste. The workshop basically gives a rest to your eyes and use the other senses. However i could not close my eyes and even trying to find out something in the complete dark. There was a hope that there might be some light and i might see something what all is their inside... hehehe..
Jokes apart, it had been a very good experience and thinking to join the workshop again in future.

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How was your weekend? Do share me in comments.

With Love 

Swati

Virtual Life on The Internet

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These days, we have been living in a virtual life of  Internet with Facebook, twitter, blogs, orkut(its over now LOL) etc. Its good or Bad? Are not we getting dependent on internet for everything? Is it good or bad?For me its GOOD only but its a kinda addiction.I feel like lost if i do not have internet for a day(except the vacations and holidays)
I don't know about others but, i spend at least 10-12 hours a day on internet for work to personal usage( I know its too much but i am not able to control it). For me its a window to the world where we meet new people, make friend , interact with friendsacross countries, share our thoughts , get the news/information  of rest of the world but this is not all. We do shop online, we order pizza on net etc etc etc... I even did virtual farming and fishing (these are Facebook apps. If someone has been playing them, he/she must be knowing how addictive they are).
Recently, Anna Hazare, an Indian socialist, started a Fast unto death against the Indian govt for the Lokpal Bill(if you don't know about it, you can read it here). For the first day the movement was very peaceful but from the second day, people started talking on Facebook, twitter and in media about it and people started knowing about his cause and started supporting him. They had been reaching to "JantanMantar" to support him and sharing their view and pictures on internet. People who were not able to reach there(like me) were supporting him virtually from all the social networking sites.
This is not the only case where internet has taken a big part, we have seen it many times in both the positive and negative ways.


Virtual life is as necessary as real life as long as you are well aware of your boundaries and privacy settings. However i think, there has to be a limit to this and we should not forget the real life.
What do you guys think?

With Love

Swati

Happy Mother's Day...!!!

Mumma, You are the best gift that God can give us. Whatever we have achieved till now, we awe it all to you. You are the best mom one can ever have. You support me in highs and lows.Today whatever i am, it's because of you.You understand my mood perfectly even on phone when i am happy or sad(without even my uttering a word). You are one of my coolest and bestest friend with whom i can share anything and everything. This is not the only day dedicated to you but still today also i wanna say I love you so much.

Happy Mother's Day every one.

With Love

Swati

Be Original, Be yourself !!!!

"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken."
                                                                                                          — Oscar Wilde
I truly believe in this and think everyone has their own individuality. No two person in the world are same.  God have created each and every person with their individual personality and we should respect our individuality, our uniqueness. 
I have seen people seen people trying to become like some actor/ actress, sports person, models etc but why they want to become like them? coz they have got success, money and fame? I don't think some one can get whatever he/she wants just by copying just anyone else.One has to be himself and original to get their goals. However getting an inspiration from someone is good and it can help to to achieve your goals.

For being the true YOU, you have to first understand about yourself.you can't be yourself if you don't know, understand, and accept yourself.Work on the things that you dislike about yourself instead of hiding them or being someone else or seeing them as stumbling blocks to being a whole person. There is nothing that you cannot change about you.

With Love 

Swati

Discrimination ... but WHY?

Why there is a gender discrimination between the Man and woman and why it is even more for the married woman?WHY WHY WHY???
I am an IT professional and i do not consider myself less than any of my male colleague. I have worked late till 2 am in the night when it was required( it was from home but still i worked late), few times i was so involved in the work that i left at last from the office. When i do not consider myself less than any other what the hell the other people do.

You  guys might be thinking why i am so fade up. So the reason is: I have been rejected twice for the US visa just because i am married and they assume that i might be a potential immigrant. Why? coz i am married.
Does that mean a married woman cannot travel for business purposes if she is applying  it after her wedding and has her Husband's name on her passport. In both the times, most of the questions are related to my personal life like what my husband do? where is he? with which organization he is working etc etc etc...They did not even ask for any document from the company(other than passport and visa application). while a married male is not even asked anything about his wife's career or personal life. Why is that?
 I know they really deal with the cases where people misuse the B1 visas but you cannot consider all the cases as same. If you are not sure about the purpose of the travel, do check their docs and company's docs but how can you just reject the visa coz i am married.

You(readers) might be thinking i was very desperate to travel abroad and thats why i am reacting so bad. NO, I have no issues if i am not travelling. In fact, i am happy that i do not need to stay away from my hubby but the thing that annoyed me here is the gender discrimination. If there would have been a different reason for visa rejection. i would not object said anything. Why can't people deal them equally.
Enough for today.Now I am feeling a lot better after writing this post as i got a lot out from me.

With Love 

Swati

Happiness Is Within Us!!!!

Hey People,
How you have been?

No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.

- Barbara de Angelis   

Some times we, the Human being, run around the world to search the Happiness. Happiness is a choice WE have to make. It is a state of being only we can create. 
Happiness can be achieved even with the very small things that we do in our daily life. Its only up to us how we take it. Being Happy is something that you have to learn. I offen surprise myself by even very small things like getting a surprise card/gift from my boy, going for a long drive late in the night, spending some quality time with hubby, talking with friends and family,i have a career that i love  etc, etc, etc..... It has nothing to do with money (however money adds an extra charm in it).


Have you ever asked a few questions to yourself :

• Are you a happy person?
• What is happiness for you?
• Do you think that happiness lies within you? Or does it depend upon other people and external things?
• Can money buy happiness?
• What are the three most important things for you to be happy?
• How can you become happy again when you are sad?
• How often do you feel really happy?
• What makes you unhappy?
• What is there to be happy about in the world today?
• What is or was the happiest time of your life?
• Why are teenagers some of the happiest people in the world?

Get an answer of these question from your inner-self  and try to make your each and ever day better than before. Life is too short to waste. Life is beautiful and live it to fullest.
at last 

Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I'm going to be happy in it.

- Groucho Marx   

Lets move to the other big event. India has won the WC semi finals and we have the India vs SriLanka final tomorrow. How are you planning to cheer up for Team India. 

                                                     Be Happy and keep smiling
                                                                      with Love
                                                                         Swati